2. Is he your Mr Right?

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Soulmates
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Read the following definitions from the Macmillan Dictionary:

 

Mr Right: A man who would be a perfect partner in a relationship.

Ms Right: A woman who would be a perfect partner in a relationship.

Now, it's your turn. Try to give a definition for the word: SOULMATE

 

The video below will give you a definition for the word SOULMATE. While watching the video, take a piece of paper and a pen and  complete the following sentences which are part of the definition. Stop the video after each sentence for you to have time to write down as much information as possible.

 

  1. That person you can...
  2. The one you could...
  3. The one you could do...
  4. You don't mind just...
  5. A person who...
  6. A person who is beside you in those times when you are in a dilemma...
  7. A person who you are unashamed to ...
  8. A person who knows ...
  9. The person who encourages you to...
  10. A person who knows you are in a bad mood and...
  11. A person who stands up for you when...
  12. A person who will assure that...
  13. The person who checks on you every day to...
  14. The person that makes you...

 

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Is he my ideal person?
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Let's reflect upon the following questions:

  • What are the most important factors for a successful relationship?
  • Is it difficult to find your Mr / Ms Right nowadays? Why (not)?
  • Is a relationship stronger as time passes by?
  • Does a couple have to spend all their time together?
  • What is the most important thing: to love or to be loved?

Do it yourself

Read the following advice given to a woman called Alicia who wrote to a blog called Mars Venus - Down to earth advice on life and love. Alicia's question was the following one:

Dear Lauren,
I am a victim of huge expectations. So, lately I’ve been thinking…is there really a Mr. Right out there for everyone? And if there is, how can I change this fear of mine that he is impossible to find?
-Alicia

Read the advice she was given by Lauren and fill in the gaps using the words from the grid. There are 3 extra words you do not need to use.

guy attract other partner minded
get irritated support friendship like
makes date shy huge esteem
single grow anxious love happiness
out weaknesses into tastes handsome

 

 

Who is Mr. Right?

Mr. Right is NOT a summation of the list of credentials you made up for the “perfect” man. He is NOT just any 1. who says, “I love you.” He is NOT going to look 2. your favorite movie star and act like your favorite superhero. And he will not save you from your life.

Mr. Right is the man that meets your needs and 3. you happy. If you rely on a man to meet ALL your needs, then you will doom your search to fail because you have unrealistic expectations. Your job is to fill your life with love, 4. , family, friends, hobbies and work. Then notice what needs are left over that are not being met. This small list of remaining needs is the realistic job description for Mr. Right. If you both do your jobs well, you will find each 5. and be happy together.

Mr. Right vs. Mr. Right Now

As you 6. and learn, your life and the priorities of your needs will change. Your version of Mr. Right will probably change as well. This process of learning and growing, involves, what I call, a series of “Mr. Right Now's.”

Every year we change and grow into more evolved people. I notice 7. changes in who I am and what needs I have year-to-year. And I find that I always manage to 8. a new person (friend, mentor, colleague, teacher) into my life that meets those needs and teaches me something I am ready to learn. These experiences take me to the next level.

When you are 9. , these teachers, cheerleaders, friends and lovers can come in the form of Mr. Right Now's. The sum of these Mr. Right Now’s will lead you to become the person you need to be to eventually attract your life 10. .

There's a Right Time and Wrong Time

The truth is, there's a right time and wrong time to meet your Mr. Right. YOU may not be ready to meet your ultimate Mr. Right. And HE may not be ready to meet you.

I know you're 11. to meet your soulmate and start your life together BUT if he's not ready for you, believe me, you don't want to rush it. Think of it like he's an undercooked piece of chicken. It will make you sick. You don’t want a piece of chicken that’s undercooked! Let other girls deal with that mess.

When he is hot, ready, and cooked to “perfection,” he will find you. You will find each other. Meanwhile 12. yourself ready and enjoy your time and development with some wonderfully charming Mr. Right Now’s!

Why Dating Is Like Shoe Shopping

When it comes to finding Mr. Right/Now (whichever it may be) compare the arduous dating process with the romantic and everlasting fun of shoe shopping!

That’s right. Date as if you are trying on shoes. Have a sense of what you want but at the same time, stay open- 13. One of those 3-inch spike heels might actually be comfortable! The flats that look the most appealing might rub your toes wrong. Sure, looks are important when it comes to shoes but the most important thing is, how do they feel? How do they make YOU feel? When you try them on, just a try, (you are not committing to anything by saying yes to a walk around the store) observe if they make you feel confident? Happy? 14. ? Small? Silly? 15. ? Sexy? Relaxed? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Just observe. Don’t bother wondering if the pair of shoes “likes” you back. That’s just silly. And it certainly shouldn’t determine whether you like the pair of shoes!

If you feel any version of bad with the guy then don’t go 16. with him again. If you feel any version of good with him then let yourself be interested. If he calls you, great! This is your opportunity to either let him know that yes! You’d definitely like to see him again. Or, “Thank you so much for the 17. . It was lovely to meet you. But I am not interested in pursuing the 18. any further.”

Don't Let Rejection Get To You

I notice that some girls wait by the phone for a guy’s call, even if they are not at all 19. him. This is our natural human desire to be liked and accepted. But please don’t base your self- 20. on whether he calls you for a second date. You are a perfectly lovely woman; you might just not be the lovely woman for him.

Everyone has different 21. . My friend likes ketchup on her spaghetti (gross!) I like pesto. You don’t see ketchup getting insecure because I don’t like it that way. Somebody else loves ketchup on spaghetti. It only takes one to be loved. So if he doesn’t call, it’s no big whoop. He’s not the man to love you.

Never Give Up Hope

Finding love is a process. It’s important to never let your impatience to find Mr. Right distract you from the REAL journey: one of your own self-realization and development. Stick to your path and you will invite Mr. Right in at the perfect time. In the meantime, go with the flow, stay open minded, try on a bunch of shoes (twist my arm!) and fill your life with love, support, and 22. . Trust that he is out there.

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Do it yourself

Read the following stages of a relationship and fill in the gaps using words from the box below:

BEGINNING RELATIONSHIPS: crush, ask, sight, courage, blind
DATING: romantic, falls, on, along, know, seeing
LOVE AND MARRIAGE: wedding, proposes, engaged, vows, ring, asks
ENDING RELATIONSHIPS: apart, divorced, break, argue, heartbroken, over
BEGINNING RELATIONSHIPS

If you have a 1. on someone, then you have to work up the 2. to 3. them out. You might also ask a friend to arrange a 4. date. If you are lucky, it will be love at first 5. .

DATING

When couples go 1. a date, they usually go to a 2. restaurant or café where they can get to 3. each other better. When you start dating somebody regularly, we say that you are 4. ' ' somebody. If you get 5. really well then you might become a couple. Sometimes, one person 6. in love, which means they start to have strong feelings for the other person.

LOVE AND MARRIAGE

When couples go out for a long time, they may decide to get 1. . One partner, usually the man, 2. .  When he proposes, he usually gives the woman a 3. and 4. her to marry him. They invite their friends and family to the 5. where they say their wedding 6. .

ENDING RELATIONSHIPS

Sometimes couples start to 1. over everything. Other couples just grow 2.  . And so, sometimes, couples 3. up.  If they are married, they get 4. . However, when couples split apart, often one person is 5. In that case, the person will need some time to get 6. the relationship.


SOURCE: https://bogglesworldesl.com/worksheets/RelationshipCloze.html

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Do it yourself

Using the text you have just read put the following phrases in the correct order that they might appear in a relationship. Write a number (01-11) next to each stage.

NUMBER STAGES
To ask somebody out
To get married
To have a crush on someone
To get to know each other
To fall in love
To go on a date
To propose to somebody
To break up
To say the wedding vows
To argue over everything
To get divorced

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Read some of the most common break-up excuses and pick-up lines:

BREAK-UP CLICHÉS FUNNY OR CHEESY PICK-UP LINES
- It’s not you; it’s me. - If I could rearrange alphabets, I would put U and I together.
- I need my own space and time to myself.
You’re smothering me.
- Is that bruise from when you fell from heaven?
- I’m not ready for a serious relationship right now. - Are your legs tired? Because you've been running through my mind all day long.
- You deserve someone better. - Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see!
- I need to figure myself out - Excuse me I have lost my phone number. Could I borrow yours?
- I really need to focus on my career right now. - I thought happiness started with an H. Why does mine start with U?
- I love you but I'm not in love with you. - Do you have a map? I'm getting lost in your eyes.
- There are other fish in the sea. - I will stop loving you when an apple grows from a mango tree on the 30th of February.
- You’re really great, I’m just an idiot. - Sorry, but you owe me a drink. [Why?] Because when I looked at you, I dropped mine.
- I just want to be friends. - You look so familiar… didn't we take a class together? I could've sworn we had chemistry.

Adapted from: http://www.englishcurrent.com/topic-dating-upperintermediate-esl-lesson-plan/

 

Look at the following pictures and tell the story of Ted and Sophie. Use the questions below as a guide for your story:

1. What were they doing when they met? Was it love at first sight?

2. What did they do on their first date?

3. How did they get engaged?

4. Why did they grow apart? What happened?

When telling the story don't forget to link your ideas together by using linking words.

This is Sophie
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On the phone
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Holding their hands
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Getting married
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     It wasn't an easy relationship
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