Hi there! Do you know how to control and express your emotions?

Do you need to improve your relationships with people?

If you do, here you will find some tips to become an EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PERSON.

#1- HANDLE DIFFICULT EMOTIONS
1. Identify your emotions and give a name to them:
1. How does my body react to these emotions?
2. What thoughts am I having? What words am I saying?
3. Am I behaving appropriately?
2. Think of the origin of these emotions. Remember they have a useful purpose and they won’t last forever. For example, fear protects us from danger.
3. Forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes.
4. Have a positive view of life and try relaxation techniques.
5. Get out of your comfort zone and learn something new.

#2- EMPATHIZE WITH OTHERS
Empathizing involves understanding people’s problems and experiences as if they were yours.
1. Practise active listening. When people are talking to you, ask questions or summarize what they say. Cheer them up with some comments if they are having a bad moment.
2. Share your thoughts, feelings and needs even if they are different from others.
I respect your opinion, but I disagree with that.
Or, I feel offended by your words. I feel so miserable now.
3. Watch people’s body language.
4. Separate real objective facts from your own interpretations and judgements.
5. Focus on similarities instead of differences with people to connect well with them.

#3- BE ASSERTIVE 
Assertiveness involves telling people how you feel or how they make you feel.
1. Be respectful: avoid aggressive behaviour and rude words.
2. Don’t be ambiguous when talking. Make clear what you want to say:
Examples: Next time, I would appreciate it if you ask for help directly.
Or, I’d love to hang out with you, guys. Will you invite me?
3. Use direct eye contact.
4. Avoid exaggerations and the word YOU to judge people: 
For example, say “I am hurt” instead of “You hurt me”.
Or say “You aren’t helping today” instead of “You never help.”
5. Remember that saying no can be difficult but also necessary in some situations.
Examples: Sorry but no, I can’t , I’ve made arrangements. I hope you find some help.
Or, I’m going to say no this time but thanks for thinking of me.

So, what are your thoughts now?

Next time you feel down or have a misunderstanding with someone REMEMBER:

1. Handle your emotions.
2. Empathize with others.
3. Be assertive.
These tips may help you feel better and become an EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENT PERSON.